Sometimes as a faith based entrepreneur I’m amazed at just how much bad advice is thrown out there and considered to be “spiritual”. You will hear things like pull out your Bible and study verses to commit to memory. Get refreshed from the Spirit. Drink the Living Water and you’ll never go thirsty again.
These are some typical responses a Christian woman will hear if she tries to share about a real problem she is having. And when you are trying to run a business, hold down a job, clean and cook for a family .. umm I’m being honest for me that advice is trite and ineffective.
Are these things wrong? No but it’s like putting a band aid over a bullet wound.
Why is it we can’t have a problem that doesn’t make us feel like “You’re not doing enough.” from these well intentioned but misaligned folks?
The amount of low key judgement I get for traveling, having massages, or just chilling in my bed for a mental health day is actually surprising. It’s like there is an expectation we should always be on the go or available for others who coincidentally are not usually there for us? Hmmm
It’s a no can do boo effective immediately!
Please don’t give me spiritual insights from behind a wagging finger.
Now before you think I’ve turned over to the dark side give me a chance to explain..
I came across this verse the other day “Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will you Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!” Matthew 7:9-11(NIV)
I choose to believe that the simple things you do everyday to feel happy are gifts from God.
So yes the Sephora runs, the trips, the me time , the money, the massages, all of it .. Stop allowing others to make you feel like you don’t deserve your gifts hun!
On that note I am going to ask, receive, and be grateful for my “good gifts” y’all. Let’s do better as women and not shame each other for what we choose to do to feel happy.
Until next time…